Your Ring Bearer
The Tradition & Duties of the Ring Bearer

The ring bearer is generally a boy aged four to eight. He can be a close friend’s or relative’s child, or, if this is your second marriage and you have children, one of your own. His official role is to bring the rings (adorned on a pillow) down the altar, immediately preceding the flower girl. In most cases, the rings are fake, and sewed on—the best man has the real jewels. If the child you chose is precocious, by all means have him bring the official rings down the aisle; you can even have someone from the sidelines exchange pillows with him immediately before he takes his place for the vows. As for the pillow itself, it’s usually in a style to match the ring bearer’s outfit or the colors of the wedding.

Lord of the rings.
Make sure to include the ring bearer in the rehearsal dinner. Stage fright hits kids too, and it’s essential he’s not uncomfortable with the task. As for outfits, he’s usually dressed in a suit similar to the groomsmen or the overall wedding theme (any attire store will have oodles of ring bearer ideas). Whatever outfit you chose, the most important thing to remember is to have it match the formality of the occasion. You’ll need to have him try on his clothes in advance, as children can be quite squeamish in formal attire.

There’s no rule that says a ring bearer is required for your ceremony, just as there’s no official rule that it has to be a boy. If, for whatever reason, there’s no male child for the job, you can have a young girl perform the duty. Dress her up similar to the flower girl. You can also double the job up: The flower girl can have a ring pillow tucked into her basket.

Boy bands.
There’s been a trend of late to have pets as ring bearers—dogs tend to be the most reliable. If you can train Fido to carry the pillow on cue, give it a try. It’s usually best to have the ring pillow tied on him in decorative floral bows, as opposed to letting him munch on the karats. No matter how many times you rehearse this procedure, have an alternate plan. Even the most well trained animals are adverse to big crowds.

If there are two boys you’re close to, think about having the other one be a page; a job that requires him to hold the bride’s train. Or get really creative and have two ring bearers; one holding the bride’s ring, the other, the groom’s. It’s a way of doubling your pleasure and their fun.